Psychological training for parents “First of all, we are parents”

Psychological training for parents

“First of all, we are parents”

Prepared by:

educational psychologist

highest qualification category Itaeva L.R.

Goals:

increasing parental competence in matters of education; awareness of the significance and reasonableness of the measure of parental care; developing motivation to improve relationships with children; actualization of the feeling of unity in the relationship between parents and children.

Tasks:

1. Improve the ability to coordinate your actions with the actions of your child;

2. Help reduce emotional stress;

3. Mastering techniques for interacting with a child.

Participants:

parents

Training duration:

30 - 35 min

Materials and equipment:

magnetic board, chamomile petals, prepared cards with sayings, a drawing of a heart (cut into 4 parts), questionnaire forms, laptop, music for relaxation, markers, blank sheets, on the board - statements about children and parents

Conditions

: the lesson is held in the office of a teacher-psychologist, participants are seated in a semicircle on comfortable chairs.

Progress of the training

Good afternoon, dear parents. I thank you for coming to our lesson “First of all, we are parents.”

Probably nothing causes such strong feelings in a person as his own children. How to find a common language with your child, how to make sure that you and the child understand each other without words. This is what we will talk about today.

I suggest you take part in the exercises; somewhere we’ll speculate, somewhere we’ll try to take the place of our child.

I hope that you will understand your children even better, be even more sensitive to your child’s experiences, and understand each other’s interests even more.

So let's start by greeting each other.

Warm-up “Give a smile”

I will ask everyone to stand in a circle and hold hands. Everyone takes turns giving a smile to their neighbors on the left and right, it is important to look into each other’s eyes.

Exercise 1

. In a circle, saying their name, they finish the phrase “Being a parent is...”.

After completing the exercise, all participants are asked to take their places.

Educational psychologist

: We have already decided what it means to be a parent
( Being a parent is work. And it should begin with working on yourself)
and before we continue, I propose to discuss the rules of work in class .

Training rules:

We try to listen and hear each other.
Briefly and clearly, express your thoughts, do not forget about the main topic.
We are discussing the problem, not the person.
We implement the “here and now” rule.
We speak only on our own behalf.

Educational psychologist

Traditionally, the main institution of education is the family. The family is a special kind of collective that plays a basic, long-term and most important role in education. It is in the family that the child receives his first life experience, makes his first observations and learns how to behave in various situations. In the system of child-parent relationships, the parent is the leading link, and how these relationships develop largely depends on him. Parenting is a profession that you need to learn, and having learned, constantly improve yourself, no matter how many children you have - one or many.

Exercise 2. “Flower”

Educational psychologist:

Popular wisdom says: “the sweetest sound for a person is his name.” If you want to attract a person’s attention to yourself, to set him up for communication, then you should address the person, the child, by name. What do you name your child?

The game “Flower” will help you find the positive qualities of your child.

Instructions: I suggest making a note in the petal. On it you write your child’s affectionate name and his positive qualities.

Conclusion: Look what a gentle and kind chamomile we have turned out to be! Maybe some of your qualities coincide.

- It was difficult? — How did this exercise make you feel?

— Was it easy for you to fill out? Why?

Educational psychologist:

We understand that parents bear a huge responsibility for the health, development, and happiness of our children. But are we always aware of this measure, do we always act adequately to the current situation? I invite everyone present today to answer the following questions.

TEST “Measure of caring”

Next to each phrase, mark the number of points corresponding to your judgment on the given question.

Strongly disagree – 1 point;

I would not rush to agree with this - 2 points;

This is probably true - 3 points;

Absolutely right, that’s exactly what I think – 4 points.

Parents must anticipate all the child's problems in order to help him overcome them.
For a good mother, communication only with her own family is enough.
A small child should be held firmly while washing to prevent him from falling and hurting himself.
When a child does what he is supposed to do, he is on the right path and will be happy because of this.
It's good if a child plays sports. But he should not engage in combat sports, as this is fraught with physical injuries and mental disorders.
Parenting is hard work.
A child should not have secrets from his parents.
If the mother fails to fulfill her responsibilities towards the children, this most likely means that the father is poorly fulfilling his responsibilities to support the family.
Mother's love cannot be excessive: you cannot spoil a child with love.
Parents should protect their child from the negative aspects of life.
You should not accustom your child to routine housework so that he does not lose the desire for any work.
If the mother did not manage the house, husband, and children, everything would happen less organized.
In a family’s diet, everything that is delicious and healthy should, first of all, go to the child.
The best protection against infectious diseases is limiting contact with others.
Parents should actively influence which of their peers the child chooses as friends.

Processing the results

40 points and above

– all your efforts are aimed at ensuring that the interests of your child are reliably protected. However, this may soon cause his protest. Your child is personally dependent on you, which does not contribute to the formation of his interests and self-esteem. He does not develop the ability to make decisions independently and bear his own burden of responsibility for them.

25 – 40 points

– you have taken the right position in raising your child. He receives a sufficient amount of attention and care from his elders, but at the same time gets the opportunity to show his independence and adulthood.

Less than 25 points

– you pay little attention to the issues of raising your child. You are more concerned about problems at work and marital relationships.

Relaxation “Talk to yourself”

Everyone sits in a circle, calm music sounds, imitating the splashing of waves

Educational psychologist:

Now each of you will make a journey. We sit down more comfortably and close our eyes. Imagine that you are walking along a path, going down to the river. The water flows quietly and shimmers. You look at the water - and suddenly the world around you changes. I don't know how, but you know it. You look at the shore and see a small child in the distance. He plays alone. He seems very close to you. You come up and see that it is you, only small, careless, defenseless. He looks at the world with big, amazed eyes. There is still a lot he doesn't know. Get closer to him. Now you can touch it. You can tell him some important, necessary words. Thank him for helping you become who you are today. Now you can let it in or let it go. Just remember that there is always a piece of this little creature in you. We open our eyes.

Reflective circle

: Everyone in a circle finishes the phrase: “My child is for me...”.

Parents' answers.

Exercise 3. “Jug of Feelings”

Let's imagine that our feelings and emotions are a kind of vessel. At the bottom of the vessel is its most important content, and when we feel good, the vessel cannot be thrown out. When we feel bad, it pours out, as they say, overflowing.

If you see your child in this state, the first thing you can and should do is hug him, hold him close to you and hold him near you for as long as the child needs. When he has had enough, he will leave on his own.

At the same time, under no circumstances should you pat him on the back or stroke him, as if “all these are such little things that they will heal before the wedding.” You just hug him.

The child should know that his parents will always understand and accept him, no matter what happens to him.

A child especially needs such signs of unconditional acceptance, like food for a growing organism. They nourish him emotionally, helping him develop psychologically. If he does not receive such signs, then emotional problems, behavioral deviations, and even neuropsychic diseases appear.

Exercise 4. “What do children want?”

For the exercise you will need a drawing of a heart, cut into pieces. Each part is numbered to make it more convenient and easier to assemble the mosaic in the future.

Educational psychologist: “Imagine mentally that you have returned to childhood. You are 5-6 years old. Remember what you wanted most? Write it down in one sentence.” (Participants write down their answers on the pieces of hearts distributed to them, after which they read and analyze what they wrote).

Then the educational psychologist suggests putting together a mosaic from the pieces received and concludes:
“What children really want is a lot of love, warmth and affection.”
Exercise 5 “Snowflake”

(The psychologist hands out a piece of paper to each participant.)

Educational psychologist:

“Now we will do an interesting exercise with you. You have sheets of paper in your hands, all sheets are the same shape, size, quality, color. The main condition is not to look at anyone and listen to my instructions:

- fold the sheet in half

- tear off the upper right corner

- fold in half again

- tear off the upper right corner again

- fold the sheet in half

- tear off the upper right corner

Continue this procedure as long as possible. Now unfold your beautiful snowflake.

Now I will ask you to find among the other snowflakes exactly the same as yours. The snowflakes must be exactly the same.

Found it? And why? How do you think? »

Educational psychologist:

“Does everyone have the same sheets of paper? What is the difference? How are the leaves similar? What is the purpose of the task? »

The psychologist comes to the conclusion: “Everyone understands the instructions in their own way, we are all different. When reading notations and rules to children, can you be sure that they understood us correctly and understood everything? If there was an example, everyone would have the same thing. There must be an example of parental behavior for children. You can talk as much as you like about how to cross the road correctly, but if you yourself do not follow these rules, you can be sure that your child will break them too.”

"Experiment"

Educational psychologist:

Now let's do a small, simple experiment.
I will ask you all to raise your index finger up. Quickly, lift everything, lift it higher, even higher. Now look what you've done. Look! I asked you to raise your index finger, and you raised your thumb. You are adults. After all, you did, not what I told you, but you went and did what I did. So, remember! Moreover, our children do not do what we tell them, but our children do what we do! Children don't hear us, they look at us.
Final part

Well, our training has come to an end. I would like him to help you in raising your children. In conclusion, I propose the “Applause” exercise.

Let's imagine a smile on one palm and joy on the other. And so that they do not leave us, they must be firmly united with applause.

Our meeting has come to an end, and I would like to hear answers to the following questions.

What do you leave this meeting with (mood, feelings, thoughts)?
What do you wish for yourself and your loved ones?

Parents' answers.

Dear parents! I hope today's meeting showed you what a great mission it is to be a parent. How difficult it is to be a parent and what happiness it is!

This concludes our lesson.

Good luck and peace of mind! Thanks to all!

For registration

“Life is short, but a person will live it again in his children”

A. France

“To change a child, you need to love him. The result of influence is proportional to love."

I. Pestalozzi

“Children cannot be scared away by harshness; they only cannot stand lies”

L. Tolstoy

“With children, bitter is sweet. Without children there is no need for happiness.”

V. Rozanov

“The best way to make children good is to make them happy.”

O. Wilde

“Children don’t hear us, they look at us”

Omar Khayyam

Bibliography

Klyueva N.V. Psychologist and family: diagnosis, consultation, training / N.V. Klyueva. – Yaroslavl, 2002.
Kozlova G.N. School parents' club: program of work, forms of classes, methodological developments / G.N. Kozlova, E.V. Lyubeznova, E.N. Netsvetailova. – M.: Globus; Volgograd: Panorama, 2009.

Child care courses

For convenience, I have divided the courses by topic. First we will look at programs for the care of newborns and children in the early years of life.

The first year of motherhood – Online school for mothers TAVI

The First Year of Motherhood course will help you enter your new motherhood prepared and avoid common mistakes when caring for a baby. He will be the best assistant for mothers of their first child.

In a programme:

the first weeks of the baby's life;
nutrition for up to a year;
maternal nutrition;
first questions to the doctor;
inspections and examinations;
preventive vaccinations;
baby development;
travel and walks.

As you can see, the program is rich and covers all aspects of the life of mother and baby up to 1 year old. The cost of the course is 4,990 rubles.

Secrets of caring for a baby - Mom's course

Secrets of caring for a baby - a course from breastfeeding and child care consultant Evgenia Nosal. In just 2 weeks, he will help you become an expert on your own baby and save a lot of money on buying unnecessary goods and services.

The course consists of 5 blocks:

The beginning of the baby's life.
Psychology of relationships between mother and child.
Careful care for a baby up to one year old.
Breast-feeding.
Mother's psychological health.

Benefits of the course:

General chat support.
Access to a private club for moms.
Detailed instructions with the most necessary information.
Help in solving pressing maternal problems: organizing breastfeeding, getting rid of colic, establishing sleep patterns.

There are three tariffs to choose from. Cost – from 5,600 rubles. up to 19,900 rub. depending on the selected options. You can take the course on your own at any time or join an organized group. Check the schedule on the website.

Newborn – Acceptance

Newborn – a course dedicated to caring for a baby up to 3 months. Its author is pediatrician, perinatal psychologist and lactation consultant Marina Stupina.

During the training you will learn:

how to organize your baby’s sleep so that both he and you get a good night’s sleep;
how to care for the baby: swaddling, bathing, setting out, walking;
how to understand his signals to you;
how to solve the problems that every mother faces;
what to buy for your baby and what not to buy.

The course includes 33 detailed video lessons, additional materials: checklists, links to research on the topic, bibliography, practical assignments for some lessons.

There are 4 tariffs to choose from, starting from RUB 4,500. up to 48,000 rub. depending on the selected options. The most expensive tariff includes an online consultation with Marina Stupina and her support during the first 3 months of the baby’s life.

Peaceful sleep for your baby from 0 to 6 months – Lessons for mothers

Peaceful sleep for a baby from 0 to 6 months - a highly focused course that will help you properly organize children's sleep and learn how to get enough sleep yourself. It presents a step-by-step system for teaching healthy sleep.

Learning outcomes:

Laying time does not exceed 10–15 minutes.
The baby falls asleep without tears or whims.
Sleep is deep and restful.
The baby wakes up in a good mood.
All family members sleep normally.

Such impressive results can be achieved thanks to an integrated, comprehensive approach to the problem. The course examines the psychological aspects of infant sleep, rules for organizing the daily routine and sleeping place, bedtime tactics and other important issues.

There are three options for participation: for 2,800 rubles, for 3,990 rubles, and for 8,500 rubles.

Breastfeeding: easy and successful – Mom and baby

The course Breastfeeding: will easily and successfully help you establish natural nutrition for your baby. Its author is a lactation consultant and mother of six children, Natalya Ryzhkova.

The course will teach you to breastfeed easily and without pain, cope with difficulties when they arise, and truly enjoy the process.

More than 100 cool lessons, tests and exercises for brain development

Start developing

In a programme:

how to properly attach your baby to the breast;
how to organize a feeding regime;
what positions are most comfortable to breastfeed;
how to avoid milk stagnation and other problems during feeding;
how to understand that the baby has enough milk;
how to control weight gain.

The cost of the course varies from 4,200 rubles. up to 40,000 rub. depending on the chosen tariff. There are tariffs for both independent passage and with the support of curators.

Mom is the best doctor - Marina Maltseva

Mom is the best doctor - a course from the founder of the Institute of Practical Nutrition and Naturopathy, Marina Maltseva. It will help you lay the foundation for your child’s health for the next 10 years in 7 lessons.

In a programme:

cause-and-effect relationships in health matters;
preparing a diet;
effective and safe naturopathic remedies;
basic analyzes and their interpretation;
recommendations for mothers of child athletes.

After completing the course, you will learn to prevent the occurrence of diseases, notice early deviations in health, treat common ailments without drugs, and understand a huge number of dietary supplements.

There are three tariffs to choose from: for 11,900 rubles, for 15,900 rubles. and for 19,900 rubles. Choose the one that suits you best.

Falling asleep without breastfeeding - Mom and baby

Falling asleep without breasts - training from breastfeeding specialist, mother of six children Natalia Ryzhkova. It consists of 17 online lessons in which you will find special techniques on how to teach your baby to fall asleep without the breast.

The results that the training will give you:

the opportunity to leave the baby with relatives or a nanny and find time for yourself;
freedom to control one's own body;
a feeling of satisfaction and pride that you managed to do it without nerves and childish tears.

The cost of the training is 4,200 rubles.

Mom in the resource – Alexandra Demidova

The Mom in Resource course was created for women facing emotional and psychological burnout during maternity leave. If you are tired and your nerves are on edge, he will help you come into balance with yourself and achieve harmony. The author of the course is child and family psychologist Alexandra Demidova.

What is inside:

the basics of motivation and self-discipline;
techniques for managing emotions;
sleep restoration practices;
natural remedies to influence the psycho-emotional state;
simple ways to bring yourself to the resource;
mother's self-esteem and guilt.

The course lasts 2 months and includes 12–20 lessons. Once a week you will receive training materials and complete assignments. The cost of the course varies from 12,700 rubles. up to 29,900 rub.

Carefree Parenting School “First Hugs” – Huggies + Skillbox

The School of Carefree Parenting “First Hugs” is a free online project from Huggies and the Skillbox online university. Its goal is to educate expectant and new parents about pregnancy, childbirth and baby care.

The training is divided into 3 blocks: “Before childbirth”, “Pregnant woman becomes mother” and “Infant”. You and I are only interested in the third.

In a programme:

the first days of a newborn at home;
questions to the ENT specialist;
questions to the cardiologist;
questions to the orthopedist;
questions to the ophthalmologist;
questions to the dentist;
development by month;
first vaccinations;
development of motor functions;
ARVI and intestinal infections.

I repeat, the course is free. To pass it, you need to register.

Also take a look at our selection of books on caring for a newborn.

Is it worth it?

You can find many reviews from those who attended psychological trainings for parents organized in various preschool educational institutions. Usually people admit that communication with children has become easier and more productive, and there are fewer problems with parenting. True, this only applies to situations where the parents followed the recommendations of a specialist. There are many known cases where adult training participants left the seminars with the feeling that their opinion was being imposed on them, and they were absolutely sure that the communication option proposed by the specialist was not suitable for them. Of course, such an aggressive perception of information and refusal to follow the proposed behavior patterns does not allow solving the problem that has developed at home.

In general, people who attended psychological trainings for parents at preschool educational institutions believe that these are useful events that help improve the quality of the child’s future and life. At the same time, it is important to responsibly choose the institution organizing the seminars and select a suitable program. It must be remembered that the qualification level of different psychologists does not coincide. And in many ways it depends on him how successfully the specialist will build a dialogue with the audience, how useful the training will be for visitors.

Features of group work

Within the framework of psychological trainings for parents, one can see that different people have unique individual ideas about the family. For example, some cut out the sun from paper to depict the mother, and mark all the children with stars surrounding the celestial body. Others develop associations with the forest, animals and birds. By observing the performance, a psychologist can guess what kind of communication between family members, and sometimes immediately understand what relationship problems there may be.

As part of psychological training for parents, special emphasis is placed on group work. The seminars are designed to ensure that all participants learn to work collaboratively with others, with each step being clearly regulated. A productive meeting is possible if rules are established and followed. The psychologist conducting the training is responsible for their formulation. Often, a specialist invites the group to set the rules themselves, while the speaker sets a template that can be changed at its discretion.

Features of the organization

It's no secret that there is nothing more valuable than family. In many ways, this institution is the basis for the existence of our civilization. For any child, a role model is the relationship between his parents. If the pedagogical competence and psychological education of the older generation are high enough, the child will probably have a good enough example to build a reliable family on their own in the future. As part of psychological training for parents, the specialist focuses on such goals, and to achieve them uses thoughtful approaches, for which the effectiveness of influencing adults has been proven by practice. First of all, it is necessary to acquaint all participants with what the possible communication styles of generations are, what nuances and features they have, advantages and disadvantages. The psychologist communicates with the training visitors, allowing them to realize how important it is to raise a child responsibly and correctly, develop his psyche and body, and respect his personality. A professional can explain what the main undesirable consequences of not taking the right approach are.

The first and most basic exercise in almost any psychological training for parents is introduction. This practice is aimed at creating a friendly attitude and an atmosphere of mutual assistance. The specialist’s task is to unite the group. When conducting the training, the psychologist focuses on the fact that the group in which the child is located (kindergarten, school) is to some extent akin to a family, which means that all parents attending the group or class of children should know each other. To introduce themselves to others, a psychologist can recommend that participants make a small appliqué from colored paper in 5-10 minutes. All tools must be prepared in advance. To introduce their family, workshop participants say a name, demonstrate creative work, and give a brief introduction to what the family members are like.

Efficient and effective

When planning to work with a group as part of the training, the psychologist is looking for approaches that will help the audience understand the importance of speaking strictly on the topic of the issue being discussed. At the stage of discussing the rules of joint communication, special emphasis is placed on the inadmissibility of interrupting the other person. In addition, training participants are expected to be in a good mood: it is unacceptable to lash out at others because of personal problems. Such communication skills, developed in a closed community under the supervision of a psychologist, can be used by parents in the future at home when building a dialogue with their child. Remembering the features of correct and productive communication, you can create an effective dialogue with the younger generation, and therefore come to mutual understanding without unnecessary quarrels.

What do I want?

As part of psychological training, the specialist conducting the event tries to find out what the desires and aspirations of all seminar visitors are. Particular attention is paid to what people expect from group work, but at the same time it is important to assess what the older generation expects from the younger generation. To simplify the formulation of hopes and plans, you can put all your assumptions and thoughts on this topic in writing. Often, the specialist conducting the event chooses a friendly game form of summarizing all the information into a single table. In the future, you can use these notes as a guide, reminding yourself why you are attending the seminar and what the benefits of attending it should be.