As we get older, we know that when crossing the road, it is important to look both ways first, some strangers can be talked to, and first opinions can sometimes be deceiving.
Children don’t know this, that’s why they are children - in the process of growing up, every young member of society learns responsibility. You need to carry it for yourself, and this means monitoring your own behavior and not forgetting about other people.
Today Tlum.Ru will tell you what is important for every parent to teach a child: rules of conduct on the street, in transport, and tips on what else to do in an unfamiliar situation.
An important clarification: don’t let your anxiety interfere with your child’s normal growth, so you read the news and don’t let him go anywhere until he reaches adulthood, but what next? We recommend a cool head and maximum adequacy, try not to rush from one extreme to another.
Dangers on the street
No. 1: Roadway and road users
The machine is not as fragile as human bones. Nobody canceled the braking distance. It is better to avoid a disaster than to try to find ways to solve the problem. All this concerns the presence of children near the roadway.
Your task is to explain that playing near the road, crossing it in the wrong place or running a red light is a bad idea. Extremely bad. Teach your child to look both ways in any situation - when you cross the road together or when he does it without you, in a crowded place or not, with or without a controlled crossing.
#2: Friendly Strangers
“Do you want some candy?”, “Masha from the second “B” is my sister”, “I have a dog here, I’m looking for friends for her” - these and a million other variations of obviously cute phrases should not endear a child to a stranger.
Teach: you can’t carry on a conversation, you can’t take gifts, you can’t get into someone else’s car, you can’t go anywhere with a stranger, and you can’t be alone with him. Inspire your child that you will always introduce all your friends, acquaintances or parents of other schoolchildren (or kindergarteners) yourself. All others should a priori be considered, at best, liars.
A distance of one and a half meters and the desirable presence of an obstacle between the child and the stranger will give a head start in case of escape. Remember: you can't turn your back on strangers.
What else can't you do? You may be surprised, but children should not help strangers on the street - this requires calling an adult.
When entering the entrance: it is not recommended to linger - this way, anyone else can come in next without a key; You shouldn’t run into the entrance after someone; ride in an elevator with strangers (a similar point can be safely recommended to adults, because often one or two minutes will not make a difference in time). Loneliness in this case is a defense mechanism in every sense. Teach your child not to listen to music with headphones at full volume - this will help to be aware of the situation around him.
No. 3: Animals
Going to the store, buying food and feeding that unfortunate couple of cats that are always hiding in the basement of your house is one thing. Teasing street dogs that have managed to form a pack is completely different; no amount of thrill is worth the possibility of becoming disabled or contracting rabies through a bite.
Set your child up for calm behavior on the street; let him, if he has such a craving for animals, learn to first ask the owner if he can pet the animal. If you refuse, you shouldn’t hang your nose; there will be someone more accommodating.
Child and road
Compliance with traffic rules is a separate safety issue. There are very few traffic rules required for children to comply with: pedestrian traffic rules, crossing the roadway, riding a bicycle, scooter, skateboard, scooter.
Rules and standards for safe behavior on railway tracks
You need to learn the following rules:
- You can’t play on roads or near the road;
- You can ride a bike only in specially designated areas without car traffic; older people can ride on bike paths and sidewalks;
- Not everyone knows, or maybe they know, but don’t follow: you can cross the roadway only by getting off your bicycle , driving it next to you; when crossing, you must carry the skateboard in your hands;
- It is important to comply with the rules for using public transport, rules of behavior and safety when using it;
- You are allowed to cross the road only when there is a green traffic light or at a zebra crossing if there is no traffic light. Older children, of course, know this, but the number of accidents on the road with their participation does not decrease;
- To ensure additional safety in the evening, it would be a good idea to wear bright reflective clothing or special reflective elements, so-called “flickers”.
Dangers in transport
No. 1: Direct transport
No games on the edge of the platform or at the bus stop, it is important to maintain distance and do not forget that other people also use transport - who may stumble, stumble, get distracted, or even deliberately try to create an emergency situation with someone else's participation. Taking care of yourself and being careful in this case will not be enough; let the child watch the others.
#2: People
You are at work, it’s time for the child to go to school, which means that, at best, you will need to use the bus, and at worst (figuratively speaking) also the metro or even trains. Teach your child not to get carried away by thoughts, games, books or music. The same fight may break out in the cabin or carriage, and it is better to have time to dodge the participants.
The ways of talking with annoying people may not be varied; here it is important to use a good voice, so that a boy or girl can say “Leave me alone” loudly, clearly, loudly and without undue modesty, and the people around them notice the suspicious citizen.
Teach your child not to leave his pockets open, and to take off his backpack during long journeys from point A to point B - this way he will irritate other people less, and attempts to check if there is something interesting there will be minimal from the very beginning.
There are other types of problems that the child will have to solve first; we remind you that he is alone, without your accompaniment, and must be aware of the risks.
What is important to teach a child?
A preschooler should know: what his and his parents’ names are, and what address everyone lives at. Ideally, you would also remember the phone number of mom, dad or any other close relative, but this depends on the child. Lost kids either loudly announce to the world that they are alone, or they go silent. It is important to attract as much attention as possible.
What parents need to do: make sure that the baby distinguishes their faces from the faces of other people. If a stranger approaches, it is important to inform everyone that this is not mom, not dad, or even great-aunt. Make sure you have coordinates for communication - put the appropriate paper (you can even laminated it) with contacts in your child’s pocket. Now they sell clothes with a sewn-in place for contact, do not be lazy to fill it out and update it periodically.
The schoolchild should know: everything is the same and the cell number, as a rule, schoolchildren are already better at memorizing than preschoolers. At the same time, the student should not be afraid to ask for help - police officers, mothers with children, store clerks. In the Moscow metro, special sticker marks have been installed for lost people, indicating that at this point you can stop and wait for the arrival of a police officer or station duty officer, who will help reunite with their parents.
There don’t seem to be many rules, but in reality everything is more complicated. It is worth striving for a trusting relationship between parents and children. Does your child understand that you are not taking care of him for show, but are really worried about his safety? Great, then the following points will be easier to remember:
- Before leaving home, let the child warn his parents where he is going, with whom and for how long he will be away. Are you planning to return later? Arrange a meeting - this will make everyone calmer;
- the child should not tell strangers anything about himself - where he is going, what his name is (it is not forbidden to come up with a fictitious name). It is important to tell especially annoying people in time that their attention is unpleasant;
- if a suspicious company appears ahead, it is better to move to another street, adults often do this, and there is no shame in children either;
- After the doorbell rings, the child is asked to go out and help reach the neighbors, what should I do? Ignore, or better yet, write to the neighbors themselves (if you have contact), try to remember the face - through the peephole, don’t open the door! Reporting that there are no adults is also not worth it;
- had to walk along the road? It doesn’t matter - the main thing is that the transport is moving towards, and not in the direction of travel;
- when entering the elevator, make sure that there is no one on the landing;
- in the elevator you don’t need to turn your back to a stranger, so you can see what he’s doing, where the dispatcher’s button is - everyone knows;
- The desire to wait until all the neighbors have left the landing is not just in adults; in this way we ensure our safety when we ourselves want to go out - let no one breathe down our backs;
- the “fight or flight” state is a normal reaction; if a child cannot physically fight back and doubts his own strength, then let him use speed and run away from trouble.
The safety of the child is in his hands and in the hands of his parents. The better the preparation for an atypical situation, the less stress you will experience. Regarding safety rules, there is more than one training manual from which it is easy to learn a lesson. For general peace of mind, there are sports sections and self-defense courses, just please coordinate their attendance with your child, in case he is not yet ready to do such things and it is easier to turn to other, less aggressive advice that we have already given.
Be careful and do not take the danger to your own life as a joke. Anything can happen. We wish everyone safety!
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How to behave in public places
Public places include all places that are common for use. This may include:
That is, when leaving home, each of us immediately ends up in a place where there are a lot of people, and therefore in a public place. Even at school, during class hours, children are explained the rules of safe behavior in public places. They not only allow you to be polite with other people, but also help you avoid various unpleasant situations. Here are some such rules:
- When trying to take a seat in any type of transport, you should not push everyone away with your elbows.
- If you accidentally step on someone’s foot, you must definitely apologize.
- Always give way and space to elders.
- In winter, when there is ice on the sidewalks, old grandparents often fall. You shouldn’t laugh, but you should go up and help the person get up and pick up his things. Moreover, such a situation can happen to anyone.
- In a theater or museum, you must behave politely, not shout; while watching a movie, for example, in a cinema, you must turn off your phone and not talk loudly.
- If you have a cough, you should cover your mouth with a tissue when sneezing and coughing so as not to spread the infection and infect other people.
- Currently, there is a ban on smoking in public places; there is no need to run into a fine. If you don't care about your health, then other people shouldn't have to suffer.
- You cannot litter in public places; if you eat candy or an apple, then the candy wrapper and the core should be thrown into the trash bin, and not on the lawn.
