Sample plans for conversations with parents to study family and family relationships
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1 Sample plans for conversations with parents to study the family, family relationships 1. Plan for a conversation with parents to obtain general information about the family 1. What is your family composition, age of family members, degree of relationship? 2. What is your education, profession, where do you work, what is your work schedule? 3. How do you assess your relationship with your children? Is your relationship with your children evident in your family? How do you manage children's behavior? 4. Is there a home library, is there a lot of books in it for children’s reading? 5. What books does your son (daughter) like to read? 6. What radio and television programs do you regularly listen to and watch with your whole family? Do you exchange impressions? 7. What newspapers and magazines do you subscribe to? What is prescribed specifically for the child? Does he regularly read his newspaper or magazine? 8. How do you usually spend your free time and weekends? 9. How do you assess your teaching abilities? Are you engaged in pedagogical self-education, what do you read on pedagogical topics? 10. How can you help a teacher? 2. Plan of a conversation to study relationships in the family 1. Is there a leader in your family? Who is this? 2. What is the nature of the relationship between your family members (benevolent, trusting, chivalrous, command-authoritarian, indifferent, etc.). 3. Is mutual assistance established in the family, the effective participation of everyone in everyone’s affairs? 4. Do conflicts occur in the family? Between whom? What do you see as their reason? 5. Do you show interest in the lives of your children? Do you know about their relationships with teachers and friends? 6. How much time do you communicate with your child every day and on weekends? 7. What joint activities do all members of your family participate in? 8. Do children know about your work, what products you produce, where they are used? 9. Do children respect your profession, do they express a desire to follow your path in the future? 10. How do you spend your leisure time? Do your children participate in it? 11. What are your family hobbies? 12. Do children participate in preparing for family holidays? 13. What family traditions are supported in your family? What influence do they have on raising children?
2 3. Plan for a conversation with parents to study family traditions 1. What traditions have been kept in your family for a long time? 2. What labor traditions have developed in your family? 3. How, according to tradition, are red calendar dates, birthdays of adults and children celebrated in your family? 4. Do children take part in preparing family holidays? 5. Do children know about the military and labor awards of their parents, grandparents; Why were they given them? 6. What traditions do you consider harmful? 7. What traditions, in your opinion, should be developed and approved in our society? 8. What influence do family traditions have on raising children? 4. Plan of conversation to study the educational capabilities of the family 1. Who in the family is more involved in raising children than others? 2. What is the degree of participation of other family members in raising children? 3. Is there unity of requirements for children in the family? 4. What interferes with raising children (lack of time, domestic instability, poor health, etc.)? 5. Does any adult family member have a negative influence on the child? How does it manifest itself? 6. What parenting methods do you consider the most effective? 7. Do you have authority with your child and his friends? 8. Do you think that you understand your children and respect their interests and creative attempts? 9. Do children tell you about the kindergarten and teachers? 10. Do your children share their plans and dreams with you, do they ask you for advice and help in resolving personal issues? 11. What difficulties do you experience in raising your son (daughter): are you at a loss before the manifestations of his character, do not know how to find the right way out of a difficult pedagogical situation, lack pedagogical knowledge, etc.? 12. Do you trust the advice and recommendations of teachers; Do they help you in raising your son (daughter)? 13. How do you improve your pedagogical culture and master the skills of practical family pedagogy? 14. What kind of help do you need from an educational organization in raising a child?
3 DIAGNOSTICS THAT REVEALS THE FEATURES OF FAMILY UPBRINGING Diagnostics that reveals the characteristics of family upbringing includes a questionnaire for parents, which gives general information about the family (questions 1-9) and reveals the interests of the child (questions 10-14). QUESTIONNAIRE FOR PARENTS Last name, first name, date of birth of the child. 1. Family composition. 2. Parents' professions. 3. Education of father and mother. 4. Financial situation. 5. Living conditions. 6. What kind of child is there in the family? 7. Since when does a child attend preschool? 8. How long has the preschool educational institution been in this group? 9. What moral qualities have your child developed? 10. Who does he like to play with most: peers, younger children, older children, adults? 11. What literary heroes does a child strive to imitate? 12. What TV shows and animated series does your child like to watch? 13. Which cartoon character does he strive to imitate? What qualities do they have that stands out? 14. Which of the listed activities does the child perform more successfully than others? Inventing joint games; telling fairy tales, stories; drawing; modeling; singing? Diagnostics that reveal the characteristics of family upbringing include a questionnaire for parents, which allows you to identify the level of communication skills of parents. QUESTIONNAIRE FOR PARENTS 1. Are there filler words in your speech? (Yes, no.) 2. Do you observe these words in the speech of children? (Yes, no.) 3. How do you address your spouse in the presence of your child most often: by last name, first name, in a diminutive form? 4. How often do you talk with your spouse while sitting in different rooms, with your backs to each other? (Often, sometimes, always.) 5. When you talk, do you try to look into the eyes of the speaker or look away? 6. In your family, is it more common to speak in a loud, normal or quiet voice? 7. Do you reprimand your spouse if he/she speaks in a loud voice? 8. How often do you and your spouse rush to talk without listening to each other fully? (Often, sometimes, always.) 9. Do you often communicate using a smile? 10. When talking with others, do you accompany your expressions with excessive gestures? Is this normal? 11. How often does your child witness scenes of a showdown between your relationship and your spouse? (Often, sometimes, always.) Diagnostics that reveal the characteristics of family upbringing include a questionnaire for parents, which reveals the characteristics of communication between parents and children.
4 QUESTIONNAIRE FOR PARENTS 1. Are you and your spouse unanimous in raising your child? 2. What is your position in communication with your child (dominant, equal)? 3. How do you most often influence a child in the form of instructions, explanations, suggestions, persuasion, requests? 4. How often, while going about your business, do you pretend to listen to your child, but don’t hear him? (Often, sometimes, never.) 5. Do you insult your child (verbally) when you conflict with him? (Yes, sometimes, no.) 6. Do you take into account your child's emotional mood? (Always, sometimes.) 7. How often do you reprimand your child if he makes mistakes in communication? (Always, sometimes, never.) 8. Do you remind your child if he forgets to say speech etiquette formulas? 9. Do you always understand the child’s mood? 10. Do you understand the child in the process of communication by his gestures and facial expressions? 11. What techniques and how often are used in the family to develop a child’s communication skills? 12. What difficulties do you encounter in the process of creating a culture of communication? 13. What prevents you from having full communication with your child? The criteria for assessing the level of educational activity of parents in the family and the level of their own communication skills are 3 indicators: 1. understanding of the need to develop interpersonal communication skills; 2. parents’ compliance with the ethics of communication with the child; 3. parents’ compliance with the norms of interpersonal communication among themselves in the presence of the child. Each indicator is worth 2 points. Levels: high parents are assessed positively on three indicators (6 points); average parents are characterized positively by two indicators (4 points); low parents are characterized positively by one indicator (2 points).
5 Questionnaire for parents on the topic: “Family leisure” 1. Do you consider the relationships in your family: 1) good 3) normal 2) excellent 4) not very good 2. Do you consider your family to be friendly?
1) yes 2) not really 3. What family traditions help strengthen your family? 1) holidays 5) holidays and trips 2) dinner with family 6) I don’t know 3) trips 7) going out into nature, watching TV, dinner 4) everything, a lot 4. How often does your family get together? 1) daily 4) when how 2) often 5) rarely 3) as it turns out 6) always 5. What does your family do when they get together? 1) everyone minds their own business, watch TV programs 2) everything (a little bit of everything, everything, a lot of things) 9) communicate 3) discuss studies 10) spend leisure time together 4) do work and go to the site in the summer 11) read 5) watch TV, discussing life's problems 12) joking, laughing 6) doing family and household work 13) relaxing 7) sharing impressions 6. Are there quarrels and conflicts in your family? 1) rarely 2) sometimes 3) no
6 ASSESSMENT OF BEHAVIORAL CHARACTERISTICS OF A 6-7 YEAR OLD CHILD QUESTIONNAIRE FOR PARENTS 1. Recently (six months a year) he has changed a lot, he has become completely different. 2. He is often rude and tries to “talk over” the adult. 3. He abandoned his favorite toys and activities and constantly disappears in the yard with other children. 4. Lost interest in kindergarten and began to go there with reluctance. 5. Asks a lot about school, asks to play school with him. 6. Prefers communication with older children and adults to playing with kids. 7. He has become stubborn and defends his opinion in everything. 8. Makes faces, clowns around, speaks in a squeaky voice. 9. Constantly quarrels with parents over any, even minor, issue. 10. Strive to imitate adults and willingly perform their duties. If this behavioral feature is characteristic of a child and has appeared recently, the corresponding item is scored 2 points; if these features appear from time to time, regardless of age, 1 point; in their absence, points are given for this age, the child is too calm, it is necessary to take a closer look at him, maybe he lags behind his peers in his development of points; negative reactions are most likely a manifestation of individual characteristics and / or the result of improper upbringing, and not an age-related crisis of points Most likely, difficulties in raising a child are caused by a developmental crisis; it is necessary to reconsider your attitude towards it and the system of requirements, otherwise the negative symptoms of the crisis may become stable character traits. Questionnaire Do you know your child well? 1. Do you talk to your child often? 2. What is your child's temperament like? 3. How often do you spend free time with your child? 4. Do you enjoy communicating with your child? 5.What does your child like to do in his free time? 6. What household responsibilities does your child perform? 7. How does he carry out his duties around the house? 8. What parenting methods do you prefer to practice? 9. Which member of your family spends the most time with the child? Questionnaire to identify the organization of communication with a child in the family 1. Do you think that you and your child have mutual understanding (yes, no, sometimes)? 2. Does your child consult you on personal issues (yes, no, sometimes)? 3. Do you know your child’s friends (yes, no, sometimes)? 4. Do they come to your home (yes, no, sometimes)? 5. Does the child participate in preparing for family holidays (yes, no, sometimes)?
7 6. Do you go to theaters, museums, exhibitions and concerts together (yes, no, sometimes)? 7. Does your child share his impressions with you (yes, no, sometimes)? 8. Do you organize joint walks or outings (yes, no, sometimes)? 9. Do you spend vacations with your child (yes, no, sometimes)? Questionnaire to identify the child’s participation in the family’s everyday work 1. What household duties does your child perform? 2. Which activity at home does your child like most? 3. Do you encourage your child to try to help you with housework if he is not yet very good at doing it? 4. What do you do with your child at home? 5. Do you introduce your child to your work? Can he name your place of work, profession, and briefly talk about what you do at work?
8 QUESTIONNAIRE FOR PARENTS ON STUDYING THE SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL SPHERE OF THE CHILD’S PERSONALITY (Author L. G. Matveeva) 1. Are the child’s mood ups and downs frequent during the day? 2. Can you call him lively and cheerful? 3. Does your child often feel like he has done something wrong? 4. Can he perform work for a long time that does not bring success? 5. Is your child touchy? 6. Does he feel embarrassed when talking to a stranger? 7. Does your child get so excited that he can’t sit still? 8. Does he like to dream? 9. Can he be called irritable? 10. Does your child sleep peacefully? 11. Does he complete the task or game? 12. Is he often tormented by feelings of guilt? 13. Is the child often distracted from basic thoughts? 14. Does he experience fear when left alone at home? 15. How long does the child worry after the conflict? 16. Does he quickly get bored with monotonous work? 17. Does he overcome difficulties at work on his own? 18. Does your child often “sulk”? 19. Can a child be called nervous? 20. Does pain bother him for no reason? 21. Is it easy to offend him by criticizing him for something? 22. Is he often distracted while doing something? 23. Does the child lose sleep due to traumatic events or disturbing thoughts? 24. Does he have tics? 25. Does the child overreact with crying or disobedience when his expectations are not met? 26. Does he manage to complete the task on time? 27. Is he shy in the presence of elders? 28. Does he despair violently when he fails in the game and destroys what he has done? 29. Does the child get into conflicts or fights with peers for various reasons? 30. Does he behave the same way with adults?
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